I don’t know how to talk to God since my father’s suicide.
Faith asks of me that I trust in the untouchable, the unknowable.
But I have lived through the unimaginable, the unbearable, and the unforeseeable.
Perhaps it is life itself that I do not trust.
God is the scapegoat
Because I still need a place to lay the blame;
Undeserved as it may be.
I close my eyes and imagine standing in front of God.
Laying out all of the shattered pieces that I have gathered up
I ask, “What now?”
And God answers me, “Entrust me with one fragment at a time.”
“Where do I begin?” I ask.
“Give to me a piece of your pain, that I may carry it and make your burden lighter.”
I don’t know how to talk to God.
But the tears flow.
I allow God to gather them as they do.
A piece of my pain is now in God’s keeping.
I’ll learn to trust again one broken piece at a time.
Thank you, again, for all you share here. You have been more helpful than words can say.
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Thank you Bob. Wednesday will be one year since my father’s suicide. The tsunami of grief and trauma is overwhelming. My words allow me to let some of the pain out, to make room for some moments of healing. Moments I cleave to…
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Beautiful Deborah. I especially liked:
“Perhaps it is life itself that I do not trust.
God is the scapegoat”
Perfect.
I lost my first wife to heart failure in 1994 when she was 43. Watched my son grieve by abusing drugs. My daughter got pregnant when she was 17. My second wife became wheelchair disabled in 2007. I struggle every day watching her cope and adjust. I have issues. But not with God.
Many years ago a guy told my friend to not confuse God with life. Good advise for most of us.
Blessings to you as you continue to grieve.
Bob
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Good and profound advice indeed. For me it’s still muddled, but I believe in my heart, as acceptance comes, I will find a new normal with God.
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I think that my new normal with God started when I embraced the idea that God is loving and good. Not easy for a guy like me but it has been helpful.
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